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| Boy Rejected By A Girl |
A years 2012 i meet with a girl whom could not marry her. She got married with someone else. My parents were also looking for a match for me. I did not want to get married or rather did not want to get married yet.
But my parents had found a match and they wanted me to meet the girl. My maternal uncle dragged me along. I respected & loved him a lot and it was very difficult to disobey him. I did not want to go see any girl. Because, I do not see myself big enough to “accept” or “reject” a fellow human being. I know this is not ideal way to choose a life partner but that was & still is my thinking.
I went to see the girl. I was very nervous. Drank about 7–8 glasses of water (till date made fun of). Went to room filled with lot of people. She was decent looking, a post graduate. None of that mattered to me. We spoke for few minutes. I did not want to say “No”. I asked her if she wants to say no, she said “why should I?”.
Her mother started asking me few questions about career, job etc. I said straightaway that I do not earn much and still trying to make my career. Now, my mother (just like Indian mothers do in our side) had exaggerated a lot of things about me, mainly salary. So when I told exact opposite of that, I came up as a honest & straightforward person. On top of that, my maternal uncle knew someone in their extended family. I was not going to say no, girl did not say no, relatives agreed and both of us put rings (way beyond the sizes) in each other’s fingers and we were officially engaged right there.
We married one year later. Had turbulent initial years. Because we had expectations. I wanted her to be like my older girlfriend, she wanted me like her dream boy who does not smoke, drink blah blah. Had a son couple of years later born with medical condition. Lost him 6 months later, putting lot more pressure on the relationship.
After those initial hiccups, when we started accepting each other for what we are, accepting with our faults things are just perfect. We have better understanding, fell in love with each other. We are now parents to 2 kids, a studious 13 years old son (reads everything except text books) and a very very naughty 9 years old daughter.
If you get an ideal life partner by choice, great. But if not, let parents choose. Most of the time they will make a better choice for you.
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